A miscarriage can be very traumatic for an expectant mother or father; yet this trauma and grief can often go unappreciated, even unacknowledged. This can add to the feelings of heartbreak, despair, and loneliness at a time when the mother needs support the most.
To help ease this heartbreak and to bring encouragement and comfort to the grieving family, we have put together some heartfelt, healing grief quotes.
A lot of them are religious in nature but you don’t have to be a devout Christian to appreciate their deep meaning.
As the Bible says in John 16:22, “So with you: Now is your time of grief, but I will see you again and you will rejoice, and no one will take away your joy.”
In the midst of grief, talking to God has been shown to be helpful. Communication with our Almighty gives us serenity because we want to believe that He watches us and will not abandon us.
Women go through a lot before they become pregnant.
Some women have a harder time conceiving than others. The reason for this is that a woman’s body and health are super-complex. They are built for the miracle of bringing a new human being into the world.
Conceptions and pregnancies vary according on the state of her health. But lots of random factors also come into play.
Bringing new life into the world is without doubt the most amazing thing any human being will ever do. Yet, because it is so common, people don’t stop to appreciate the tiny intricacies and complexities involved.
Things can, and sadly, do, go wrong. But no one likes to think about that.
As a result, women who have experienced a miscarriage find it difficult to communicate their grief. Miscarriage is something no woman wants to experience or even contemplate.
The preparations made by pregnant mothers are crucial to producing a healthy baby. Regular visits to the gynecologist, taking vitamins, eating a nutritious diet, exercising regularly, and sleeping well are all examples.
So, when a miscarriage happens, it may seem to be the end of the world for some parents or mothers. More often than not, they lose hope and blame themselves for losing their child. This is understandable but not beneficial. There is rarely anything the mother could have done to change the outcome.
It’s either every woman communicates her overflowing feelings of loss and despair in various ways or chooses not to talk about it. Yet occasionally, they are left alone to grieve since they have no one to share their grief with. Some mothers who have lost children, on the other hand, cling to their other half to find solace while remembering their angels.
“I will never forget this awful time, as I grieve over my loss.”
“Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe also in me.”
“Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.”
“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.”
“And said: “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked I will depart. The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away; may the name of the Lord be praised.””
“As long as I can, I will look at this world for both of us, as long as I can, I will laugh with the birds, I will sing with the flowers, I will pray to the stars, for both of us.” – Unknown
“Your absence has gone through me like thread through a needle. Everything I do is stitched with its color.” – W.S. Merwin
“’There is no heartbeat.’ 4 words. 4 words to end the life I had. 4 words to change who I was. It will never be the same again. I will never be the same again.” – Kerin Lee
“A life may last just for a moment, but memory can make that moment last forever.” – Unknown
“To lose a child is to lose a piece of yourself.” – Dr. Burton Grebin
“There is a unique pain that comes from preparing a place in your heart for a child that never comes.” – David Platt
“I held you every second of your life.” – Stephanie Paige Cole
“When you carry a life and it’s there, and then gone, a part of your soul dies. Forever.” – Casey Wiegano
“A wife who loses a husband is called a widow. A husband who loses a wife is called a widower. A child who loses his parents is called an orphan. There is no word for a parent who loses a child. That’s how awful the loss is.” – Unknown
“Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.” – Jamie Anderson
“Grieving is like having broken ribs. On the outside you look fine, but with every breath, it hurts.” – Unknown
“Those we love don’t go away, they walk beside us every day…unseen, unheard, but always near, still loved, still missed, and very dear.” – Unknown
First and foremost, parents must recognize the many phases of grief following a loss.
It makes no difference if the loss occurs in the first, second, or third trimester because a miscarriage is a miscarriage. It entails the death of a child, which has profound consequences.
Can you picture having a vital part of your body removed? Losing a kid due to miscarriage is far worse. Each parent may go through stages of denial, anger, bargaining, despair, and acceptance.
Here are some notable Bible verses that will strengthen our faith in the midst of grief.
“You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you. Trust in the Lord forever, for the Lord, the Lord himself, is the Rock eternal.”
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
“Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. For he does not willingly bring affliction or grief to anyone.”
“Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. For just as we share abundantly in the sufferings of Christ, so also our comfort abounds through Christ.”
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
“He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”
During the most difficult moment in our lives, it feels like we see nothing but darkness. We are numb and we let the weight of loneliness and grief at the loss of someone we care about drag us down, but it’s natural, and God sees us.
He sees our anguish and is filled with compassion. Even though our mind, body, and soul are weak, we should seek God and be patient since He is merciful and a loving God. Prayers for patience might help us get through the suffering and exhaustion we may be feeling at some point in our lives.
“Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.”
“Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.”
“And they can no longer die; for they are like the angels. They are God’s children, since they are children of the resurrection.”
“But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint. Time may heal the wounds, but the memory of a lost child will go on forever. Nothing can replace a parent’s love for his or her child.”
“I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you.”
“You never arrived in my arms, but you will never leave my heart.” – Zoe Clark-Coates
“A life need not be long-lived, for it to be meaningful.” – Unknown
“You didn’t stay for long, but in those precious few weeks, you changed me forever.” – Zoe Clark-Coates
“The one who left gentle footprints on our hearts left a story worth telling.” – Unknown
“Some say you are too painful to remember. I say you are too precious to forget.” – Unknown
“I’ll love you forever, I’ll like you for always, as long as I’m living, my baby you’ll be.” – Robert Munsch
“She was born silent after fighting so hard to make it to our world. She is at peace now and will live forever in our hearts.” – Christina Perri
“A miscarriage is not a failure, because a failure implies that it’s something you can control. Miscarriages are beyond our control.” – Dr. Simone Whitmore
“Our children change us, whether they live or not.” – Unknown
“I never heard you, but I hear you. I never held you, but I feel you. I never knew you, but I love you.” – Unknown
“It takes strength to make your way through grief, to grab hold of life and let it pull you forward.” – Patti Davis
“To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die.” – Thomas Campbell
“You will survive and you will find purpose in the chaos. Moving on doesn’t mean letting go.” – Mary VanHaute
“Your baby is your baby, and that can never be taken away. There will always be a special place in your heart reserved for your child, even if you never held them in your arms.” – Unknown
Anyone who has lost a child understands how tough it is to go on. There is no time limit on mourning, but one thing is certain: there is still light at the end of the tunnel.
All that is necessary for parents to have at this point is patience and faith. Life is full of surprises, and after their bodies and minds have recovered, couples may find themselves attempting to conceive again.
Seeking online support or joining an online group that can relate to the same ordeal may help parents in gradually getting themselves back on track.
Although this may not be typical in many regions, it would be wonderful if couples or mothers who have miscarried could receive some communal assistance. Although some mothers may feel uneasy at first and believe it is unnecessary, it can help them regain confidence and eventually become more open to share what they are going through.
A perfect example of this is a piece of clothing your baby was expected to wear after birth or a receiving blanket with his or her name on it. There are parents who have tattooed the name of their angels on a part of their body.
Keeping certain memorabilia of a miscarried baby may seem unpleasant and painful, of course. But it may help parents remember them and gain strength from their memories. While these angels did not stay longer, they will be forever part of the family. Parents don’t only value their angel’s things; the thought that these items belong to them makes the parents feel that they’ve never left.
“Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.”
“Like newborn babies, crave pure spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow up in your salvation, now that you have tasted that the Lord is good.”
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you; I appointed you a prophet to the nations.”
“My comfort in my suffering is this: Your promise preserves my life.”
“So then, death is at work in us, but life is at work in you.”
“He will swallow up death forever. The Sovereign Lord will wipe away the tears from all faces; he will remove his people’s disgrace from all the earth. The Lord has spoken.”
“My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.”
“Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.”
There are many things that a family member or friend can do to assist a mother or couple in their recovery from the loss of their angels. Simple gestures might help the bereaved party heal and bring smiles to their faces, knowing that others from the family or circle of friends are concerned about them.
Here are some simple but touching acts of kindness that you can extend to those who have lost their baby due to a miscarriage.
Who wants to be asked about how they are coping while in grief? It is a bit odd to ask parents how they are after a child’s loss to miscarriage. However, by doing so, we want them to know that we are all ears and there is no prejudice. Listening to them when they are ready to talk about the loss gives them a lot of relief. It is not necessary to give pieces of advice; what they need is your presence and to know that you are there to share their grief.
Food makes us feel good. Sending home-cooked meals or baked bread or pastries is a simple gesture – it shows that you care about the individual or couple receiving it. Given that this is likely to be one of the most trying times in their lives, it will undoubtedly help if mothers could be treated to some prepped food so that they can rest more and need not worry about cooking. If you consider how comforting food can be plus its health benefits, moms may truly appreciate it.
We must recognize that while couples or mothers may be hesitant to chat to anyone in the family or relatives, simply paying them a visit and taking the time to speak to them might bring happiness. It’s because when we make time for them, we want them to know they are loved and that a miscarriage will never diminish our regard for them as family or friends. Thus, it is very kind to show how we value their worth as a woman and as a parent.
“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
“When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.”
“Then she went off and sat down about a bowshot away, for she thought, “I cannot watch the boy die.” And as she sat there, she began to sob.”
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
“Heaven and earth may separate us today, but nothing will ever change the fact that you made me a mom.” – Unknown
“When a child dies, you bury the child in your heart.” – Korean Proverb
“A mother is never defined by the number of children you can see, but by the love that she holds in her heart.” – Franchesca Cox
“Planted on earth to bloom in Heaven.” – Unknown
“What we have once enjoyed deeply we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” – Helen Keller
“I prayed that God would bless us with a baby. Each child is a gift, and I am proud that we cooperated with God in the creation of a new soul for all eternity. Although not with me, my baby lives.” – Christine O’Keefe Lafser
The world can be cruel and unpleasant at times, but God’s love is unchanging. The world doesn’t care how each of us handles the storm it bestows upon us, and in this case, women or parents who have miscarried are the victims. God’s abundant kindness and compassion, on the other hand, will strengthen us. Instead of giving up, we must be patient.
There is a reward for those who are patient. We must pray for patience to endure the lengthy wait and believe in God’s perfect timing. Yes, miscarriage is a terrible and tragic word, but we might also consider those infants who died as angels who were born but were intended to play in a playground in heaven rather than on earth.
They are angels who will live forever in their parents’ hearts and minds. Moms who have carried them till their last breath are their own heroes because, despite the unbearable grief, they strive to be the best parents they can be to the rest of their children and wives to their husbands.
Mothers can rest in the fact that their silent cries are heard by the heavens, and that they will be healed in God’s perfect timing. As what the Bible says in Philippians 1:6, “God didn’t bring you this far to leave you.”
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